A Beautiful Film

Click here to see a beautiful film.

I’d never heard of Louis Schwartzburg before watching his presentation as a TED speaker (Technology, Education, Design). There, I saw his film, Gratitude. It reminded me to feel profoundly grateful to be on this earth. I was also that he captured and so generously shared this work. It made me leave my computer and get outside, that very minute.

Even though I wasn’t familiar with his name, I learned that I was familiar with his work, and you probably are, too.  Did you see E.T., American Beauty, or Men In Black?  He’s also worked with DisneyNature and National Geographic. Louis has many short films online, and available for (surprisingly inexpensive) download on his website, Moving Art.

I went to his website and just watched Wings of Life. Now I must leave this computer, again, and go spend time outdoors. I don’t want to miss the live performance.

Thank you, Louie Schwartzberg 🙂

California’s offerings: tea writing

I miss my dear east coast ones terribly, but here’s one more thing I found living in California that I’d never find in the DC area.

“Learn the basics of Asian tea while deepening your mindfulness practice and using the words of tea masters, poets, and classmates to inspire your creative practice.” ~Mindful Writer

My breathing and heartbeat slow when i even contemplate this. And the corners of my mouth turn up. 😀

Thank you, Moms

Thank you, Moms
by Melinda Bennington

Thank you, Moms:
The one who created me;
Who gave birth to and read to me;
Who held me;
Moms who helped me,
Who raised friends with whom I played,
Studied, and learned;
Moms who fed me;
Moms who asked good questions.
Thank you, Mum
Who raised the man I love, and
The ones who helped.

Thank you Moms
Who love
The children they’ve had
And haven’t.

Thank you, Moms
Who had babies with me,
Took turns with me,
Coaching, room-parenting,
Carpooling, and cheering,
being the parent there, in case;
Thank you, Moms,
Who kept one child while
I took the other to the ER,
Moms at the bus stop,
Moms in the neighborhood,
Moms at school.

Thank you, Moms
Whose kids had already
Had whooping cough and bothered
To tell me about the steamy shower.

Thank you, Moms
Who shared tapes and photos,
Called to say you were late to work, stuck
Driving behind my son going the speed limit;
Thank you Moms who really were
At the party;
Who prayed with me
For our children,
For their safety,
For guidance, for the right people
To be put along the paths
That are their own.

Thank you, Moms
Who raised peacemakers,
Teachers, rascals
And saints.

Thank you, Moms
Whose love surrounds those
On distant shores, in
Perilous places;
Moms who say:
You can do it
If you practice and work hard;
What’s plan B?
Tell me about it;
Be well;
Have fun!
I love you.

Thank you, Moms
Who say
It’s one more part of life;
What an adventure this has been.

© Melinda Bennington

Mindfulness, International Style

Mindfulness requires no particular time zone or cultural beliefs. Research supports the benefits of secular mindfulness, as you’ll see below. It consists of contemplation, reflection, and observation. These universal human practices can improve concentration and, historically, have been employed in science, social relationships, leadership, diverse religions, arts, and many other areas of life. You may hear these discussed, but at its essence, as practiced in schools, and supported by research around the world, mindfulness is quite pure.

The secret is, it’s as simple as eating a grape. Or taking a shower. Or just breathing.

Mindfulness is practiced internationally. It’s taught in some California schools. Maybe that doesn’t surprise you :-D. But did you know there are also mindful public, private and charter schools in eleven other US states? Mindfulness is taught in Vancouver, Canada public schools. (See what kids have to say about mindfulness, in their own handwriting!)  There’s evidence supporting mindfulness from the program at the University of Massachusetts, where mindfulness research in the US started, to UCLA, to Australia’s Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction program. It’s studied from the point of view of many disciplines – Education, Business, Medicine, and Neuroscience, among others.


Through Dr. Amy Saltzman’s Still Quiet Place curriculum training, I studied and interacted with mindfulness practitioners from around the world. I’m so grateful for this warm, professional international mindfulness community, which shares practices, resources, and experiences. SQP training helped me improve my skills in teaching mindfulness to children, and sustained my own mindfulness practice, in a wonderfully supportive milieu. It’s been such a treat! This week several of us (from Russia, Portugal, California) who completed class together had our own video-conference. We’ll meet again at another hour convenient for our Australian and Chinese colleagues, and elsewhere. 

There has been significant research in the last thirty years demonstrating that mindfulness practice can produce increased density in areas of the brain associated with learning, memory, and introspection, and decreases in areas of anxiety and stress. In addition, there is a greater sense of well being, and decrease in distress associated with pain and physical limitations. Mindfulness has been shown to be an effective tool with eating disorders, and can even increase our bodies’ antibody response to flu vaccine!

“Mindfulness training has shown preliminary evidence of efficacy in the  treatment of psoriasis, type 2 diabetes, sleep disturbance, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, and other conditions…” including eating disorders. Journal of the American Medical Association, 2008


In case you’d like to try it, (or just examine it), I’ll share some mindfulness resources from time to time.

For now, I’m just looking closely, breathing deeply, noticing…

😀

What are you watching today?

Tonight the “Supermoon” may be thirty percent brighter than all the other full moons of 2012. Supermoon explained – NASA

That’s what I’m watching tonight, over Folsom Lake, along with the man I love, and some other folks. We might even howl at the full moon.

Where will your travels take you? May it be a beautiful night for all. 🙂

The Still, Quiet Place

I’m finishing up a wonderful class, taught by Dr. Amy Saltzman, MD., called Still Quiet Place ~ Mindfulness for Children, to improve my mindful teaching skills. The registration materials said the class provides training in the Still Quiet Place curriculum which Dr. Amy has used in California schools. It did that beautifully, but also offered so much more.

One of the secrets to good teaching is mastery of the content – the stuff you want to teach. Amy’s expertise in this area is irreproachable. She is a highly respected professional in this field. As a physician who expanded her practice to include holistic medical care, she understands the science and humanity of truly caring for people. Her work is based on thirty years of research. She cares well for adults, including those of us in her class, but it is her work with, and on behalf of children that brought me to her class.

Dr. Amy Saltzman’s Still Quiet Place cd’s for children and teens were among the first mindfulness resources I posted here. Watching her actually teach the material, and respond to issues children spontaneously bring up, is watching a master practitioner at work.

I will post more on what it’s like being in a class with dedicated practitioners from around the country, and the world. But for now, Welcome:

Welcome, soft, grey doves, 

cooing your gentle cry: 
We have arrived.
Welcome song, 

shadows, 
pairing,
bobbing heads and black pearl eyes.

Welcome to the food, 

the drops of water glistening in
Morning’s sunshine; 
help yourself to these seeds, 
this space,
this air we breathe together in, 
this air the geraniums breathe out. 
Come back, if you like, when the tomatoes are full and ripe.
There is enough.


Cognitive load

My brain is blessed. I’m in my last week of our amazing Still Quiet Place mindfulness class, the week after the Northern California Society of Children’s Book Writers and Illustrators conference!


Cognitive load, but in a good way 🙂


To my writer friends at home and in California, and fellow SQP practitioners, thank you for the poetry of many minds.

Humorous cards

So… these are the kinds of cards you get after your shoulder makes a funny “pop!” sound.

I am so grateful for loving friends. And especially, their senses of humor.
🙂

You don’t get to pick everything that picks you.

But you do get to pick the cards.

And where the cards others choose for you go.

Best Short Film Since That Squirrel in “Ice Age”

This film, “Validation”,  is a short film about free parking. Well, ostensibly about free parking. It’s actually about a lot more than that. I never saw this in a theatre, but the silver lining is, it won the award!  

A wonderful short film on YouTube; today’s gift to make you smile 🙂

Woman to Woman: Practical Tips for Shoulder Surgery ~ Melinda Bennington, BSW, M.Ed.

Welcome to Shoulder Surgery Survival for Women!

 I’ve learned a few things from my recent shoulder surgery. Planning helps!  What purchases and preparations can you make ahead of time in order to be ready? Here’s a photograph of a few things that I found helpful.

                                                     
For example, pump bottles. As you can see, my shampoo and conditioner and soap are all in pump bottles. Once your arm is in a sling you’ll find it a lot easier to use these products with one hand.


Medication 
Press and turn lids are nearly impossible to remove with one hand. Depending on your home situation, you can request a non-childproof lid at the pharmacy. You do not want to find yourself unable to open your medicine bottle! And for pain, a big bag of frozen peas makes a great ice pack.

                                                           
By the way, along with press and turn lids, it’s difficult to put your hair in a ponytail, remove ice from an ice cube tray, use a can opener, or perform any other two-handed tasks. Plan ahead when you go to the grocery store before your surgery. The easiest food will be precut and in bite-sized pieces. And, seriously, do any banking and bill-paying before surgery.
Online banking  +  painkillers  = ??$$!!

The first day after surgery you’ll probably need a clear diet. Pre-made Jell-O comes in individual serving sizes, both sugar-free and regular. Clear broth should only be purchased with a pop top. (My doctor provided a scopolamine patch to help fight nausea the first two days-it helped!)

Next: a few things to consider ahead of time regarding clothing. I prepared several inexpensive large white T-shirts, slitting the seam of the T-shirt from under the sleeve down the underside (of the injured arm side.) This let me slip the T-shirt sleeve over my good arm, put my neck through the neck hole, and loosely drape the other sleeve over the shoulder dressing the first few days at home/bedtime. The sling was easy to put on over the T-shirt even when I was in the most pain. Don’t worry, it gets better!                                                    

It will be impossible to hook a bra behind your back. The easiest and most effective alternative is the stretch camisole with built-in bra. Some have built-in cups, and others a shelf bra. The most important thing is that they are easy to pull up with one arm. Pull the strap first over your healthy shoulder, leaving the other strap beneath the injured armpit, creating a one- sleeved camisole. As you recover, and dressings are removed from the injured shoulder, the other strap can be loosely placed over the injured shoulder.

                                                         
It’s easiest to put a layer over the camisole if you use stretchy clothing. A sweater put on your healthy arm and loosely draped over the injured shoulder is one choice. Once you’re past the painkiller phase, another choice is a garment with large armholes and neck hole, and loose, short sleeves. (For step-by-step directions with illustrations, go to www.melindabennington.com) Remember, clothes go on the injured arm first, using your healthy arm to adjust the top, the injured arm supported at all times. Once the top is in place, put your sling on over the top. I went through my closet then went shopping the week before surgery. Trying on clothes with one arm in a pretend sling position before surgery is a lot better than trying to get into clothing after surgery and finding that it’s too painful, or you can’t get back out!

The sling padding gets really itchy. I tried several liners but found a light silk scarf worked best.
     
I was surprised to find that the fluid pumped into the shoulder pooled in the abdomen until absorbed. Comfortable, pull-on athletic pants are easiest. However, if you need to dress for the office or a more formal setting, there’s a trick you can use to button your pants with one hand. Look at the picture. Put a rubber band through the buttonhole then through itself. This creates a loop that can be hooked over the button. Once the button is hooked, pull up the zipper. (This works well when you’re pregnant, too.)
                                                 
Slip-on shoes are easiest for footwear. Tying shoelaces is out of the question.

Before your surgery, purchase a package of Velcro with adhesive backing. You won’t believe how many things you can stick to your bulky sling! (I attached my cell phone and sunglasses)
                                     
Face it, you’re going to feel gross when you can’t take a full shower the first few days. But you can’t get the bandages wet. A package of baby wipes comes in really handy in the meantime. Follow your doctor’s instructions regarding bathing.

When I tried to work from home the first few days, even to catch up on email, I’d fall asleep with my laptop humming. I was glad to have dictation software; one-handed typing is slow. But emails I thought I’d sent I later found in my drafts folder. (And a couple sent that should’ve still been drafts!) I decided it was better to just rest, and heal. Accept help. A sense of humor comes in handy.  🙂

Set your television ahead of time to record every show and movie you want to watch during your recovery. Download or buy good books with simple plot lines. Make sure your pillows are plumped. Treat yourself gently and with patient kindness. And be well. ~ Melinda